May 21, 2015

Snip. Snip. Snip.

It's all because of Howie.
And, I love him for it.  Just one of the reasons.

If it were left up to me, our children might never grow up.
I can tend to mother them beyond what's reasonable.
The temptation to tie them too tightly with my apron strings tugs at my heart.
Howie brings a wonderful balance to these tendencies of mine.

He encourages a methodical and age appropriate cutting of those strings.
I won't lie.  At times it's a little bit painful.  But, it's all for the best.

Our boys have gone camping.  Without us.  A few times.  
On one occasion, they travelled clear across the Province.  Into the heart of bear country.
If it had been up to me I am sure I would not have let them go.  Well, maybe at 30.
They not only survived, but, they thrived.  The timing was right.

They seemed to grow a little taller on that trip.
I am quite sure they must have.  Inwardly, at the very least.

 ~ From the above mentioned trip in 2014 ~

Just the other day, they took Miss M and Emma up to Grouse Mountain.
The very next day, they loaded up the van with bikes and Calvin drove to the ferry.
Once there, they unloaded those bikes and rode onto the ferry
along with the cars in order to spend the day on Mayne Island.

Howie and I stayed home.  Alone.
Snip. Snip. Snip.  Slowly, but, surely.

 ~ Just before they made the trek up Grouse Mountain ~

None of these things would have happened if I hadn't had assurance from
my better half that it was a good thing for them to do.  Without us.
It feels strange to make room for their wings to spread and give them the liberty to fly.
I cannot think about it too much, however.  I've even been known to leave when they do.

I'm always thankful when they arrive back home.
Safe and sound.  But then, off they go again.  I cannot tie them down.

~ After their day on Mayne Island ~

What a blessing it is to know that they are in the Lord's hands.
And, He loves them so much more than we ever could.
It truly is such a comforting thought.  So, I rest my heart there.
By His grace and in His strength.  Seeking Him for wisdom each step of the way.

What about you?  What are some of the ways in which you are
encouraging your children to soar?  What ages and stages are you currently in?
If your children are grown, what did you do to foster a healthy independence in them?
Please share your wisdom and experiences....I'm all ears.  :)

Many Blessings, Camille

**Grouse Mountain photo courtesy of Miss M ~
Thank you so much for sharing!  :)


Maryann said...

I can feel you growing right along with them. Snipping those apron strings can be a hard thing to do but if you don't gradually cut those strings they eventually will cut those strings themselves. It can be hard sitting at home, imagining the worse....oh, I've been there. I had to get to the place where I had to remember that the Lord loved these children even more than I did, their lives were in his hands, I had tot trust him. Lots of prayer is the
Blessings and Hugs

Heather said...

Oh my goodness, the snipping! That's quite a cut! Lol! I'm with you on keeping them close, but Howie's right... and I'm sure, many other husbands who help us with the snipping.
My apron-cutting feels like it's happening daily. Some days it seems like those strings are greased for easy release!

Camille said...

Dear Maryann ~ Your words of encouragement are a blessing to my heart...thank you for *getting* what I was saying and for offering your take on it all. You are right...they will cut those strings if we don't! May the Lord give wisdom to know how to navigate these waters in a godly way. Hugs to you! :)

Dear Heather ~ How quickly it creeps up on us...don't you think? Your family is growing up right before your eyes and they are beautiful! What a blessing they have YOU! Hugs. :)

With Love,

Intentional Living Homestead said...

Wow, this post resonates with me. I have a very hard time going snip, snip, snip. I think you are better at it than me...just ask my children. LOL.

I'm a work in progress.


Camille said...

Dear Connie ~ Too funny that your impression that it is easy for me...not true! Hugs to you my friend. :) Love, Camille